Menu istimewa hari raya

“Ugh, why don’t fat people just eat less?”


If you’ve heard an ignorant comment like that, you’ve probably been to any of a thousand online forums.


People love to demonize others for overspending and overeating, especially behind the anonymity of online commenting. Nothing drives me crazier than people who ignore decades of research to judge others for their supposed lack of willpower.

This is why you’ll see the personal-responsibility zealots who repeatedly chant, “Ugh, let’s talk about personal responsibility,” as if that simplistic argument explains why people who genuinely want to spend and eat less simply cannot.

This superb New York Times article offers more evidence of ancillary factors in behavioral change:

“I have grave concerns about how many of these television shows stigmatize overweight people by making them a spectacle,” said Kelly D. Brownell, director of the Rudd Center for Food Policy and Obesity at Yale. “They suggest that if you only try hard enough you can be thin. A far better message is that it’s hard to lose weight and that it’s not just willpower and personal responsibility, but that both biology and the environment are players.”

I’ve written about the similarities between food and personal finance before.

Former FDA commissioner David Kessler has written a terrific book describing how food companies systematically engineer foods to overeaten (including designing foods that can be swallowed quicker so we can consumer more and more in one sitting). These are tested, refined, and optimized processes, not mere accidents.

Most importantly, behavioral change is not simply about trying harder. Yes, effort is important, but whether it’s passive barriers or the variety of other reasons that illustrate how personal finance is not about more willpower, let’s be real: Behavioral change is incredibly complex and difficult.

Anyone who believes people overeat and overspend simply because of a lack of willpower is simplistically ignoring decades of research so they can ideologically mislead themselves.

Kegilaan baru ku ( My new craze)

Cahaya di Aidilfitri by Black Dog Bone

Raya is about 5 days away and it is said that the last 10 days of Ramadhan are the most barakah but if u notice, the number of safs at the mosque is lower than the first 10 days of Ramadhan.
Btw.. Sudahkah anda membayar zakat fitrah tahun ini? (pesanan khidmat masyakarat ini dibawa oleh....) This year MHH (My Hunky Monkey MHM has been upgraded to MHH My Hunkey Hubby) is paying mine.. huhuhu..
Alaa yang.. 7 hengget je pon hee.. because apparently the responsibility goes from father, to self (once u start working) to husband (once you're married!)

So last Saturday the gals and me went for a late night rendezvous at the Jalan Tuanku Rahman. You know, for Raya stuff and to check out the Ramadhan bazaar that everyone's been raving about. and O.H.M.Y.G.O.D what a wrong move it was, to go to Jalan TAR on the last weekend before Syawal! The streets were jammed pack you can hardly walk properly nor shop comfortably. Dengan makcik pakcik bawak anak anak kecil merata hala. Im amazed that they dont seem to worry so much about H1N1 or they children being squashed by the crazy mob. But hey! we managed to get all the stuff that we wanted, and merasa the real suasana hari Raya shopping frenzy.If there were about a hundred people less, im sure it would have been a very enjoyable late night shopping experience. namun bersupper di mamak dengan teh O ais limau and maggie goreng (saliva dripping) tetap tidak dilupakan! hee

You make the good girls go bad..

Happy T.H.R.E.E baby!

Looking forward to your cooking tonight ;-)

What if today is as good as it gets

We're pulling apart and coming together again and again
We're growing apart but we pull it together, pull it together, together again"
Never Say Never (The Fray)

Cant believe ive known them for TEN years. Some ive even known for FIFTEEN.
From baggy jeans and tshirts to slacks and cufflinks.
From boyfriends to husband.
From London to KL.
From nerds to jocks.
From single to motherhood.
From comot to comel. (ahem..)

Heres to another ten years, love!